I don’t think there’s anything I’m ever more nervous for than a first date. So if your hands are shaking and your anxiety is kicking in, relax. It’s normal. Nerves aside, kicking ass and taking names on a first date is essential. If you show up, embarrass yourself or piss her off, there won’t be a second date. You only get one opportunity to impress her. Make the most of it.
Pick a Quiet Lounge Close By and Ditch Dinner
Dinner is the most overrated first date activity ever. Don’t even suggest it. Going out to dinner takes too long, costs too much money, and isn’t very intimate. You won’t have much opportunity to make physical contact with her when you’re out to eat. Instead of dinner, take her to a quiet lounge AFTER dinner. It’s important that you pick a place that isn’t too crowded or loud. You won’t be able to hear each other if it is.
Since we’re focusing on getting laid on a first date, you should be selective with where you’re taking her. Going somewhere 45 minutes from your house isn’t a good idea. The drive back to your place takes too long and she’ll probably decline the offer to go back there. Even if she does accept your offer, she may lose interest in having sex by the time you make it back.
First Date Strategies That Work EVERY TIME
Now that you know where to take her, let’s move on to how to act on the date. I know you’re probably tired of being told to “be yourself”, but the truth is that’s how you get laid. I know what you’re thinking…”but I’m boring”. No you’re not! You’re only boring because you don’t have the confidence to let your wild side out. Everyone has a wild, fun side deep down. It’s just a matter of bringing it out at the right time. Show up feeling good about yourself and EXPECTING to get laid. Don’t be afraid to show a little swagger. But don’t act cocky.
I know that I suggested taking her to a bar, but if she doesn’t want to drink you also should not. Mirror her actions. If she drinks, you drink – but not too much. If she’s aggressive with physical contact, be aggressive with physical contact back. The first date is all about impressing her with good conversation. That means discussing topics she’s interested in, not the topics you’d like to chat about. Although you should ALWAYS be in control of the conversation, let her do most of the talking. Act interested in what she says even if it’s more boring than your High School Biology class.
The last thing you need to do to get laid is to pickup on her signs. Watch for subtle actions and comments she makes that indicate she’s really into you. It’s important to catch these signs right away so you can make a move. If you don’t make a move quickly, she may lose interest. The basic signs to look out for are lightly touching your wrist, not rejecting your physical advances, looking you in the eyes and smiling while you talk, etc.