Recently, a reader of mine sent me a message to let me know that the advice we teach on here is ineffective. Knowing that he’s factually incorrect (we’ve tested out our methods and proven they work), I wasn’t just going to ignore the message. Besides, I wanted to help this guy out. Certainly, there was something he was doing wrong. But he insisted that he followed our dating guide and tried everything to attract women but he not only was unable to get laid, he couldn’t even get a date. So I had a long conversation with him and got to the bottom of his problem. The first thing I did was email him these questions…
- Does your profile (picture AND content) meet the guidelines included in our dating guide?
- Are you sending out strong emails that stand out in a good way?
- When chatting via text or IM, are you keeping the conversation interesting and talking about topics SHE’S interested in?
- Are you smoothly asking her out on a date within an hour after the start of the online/text conversation?
- Are you going after women that aren’t WAY out of your league?
- Are you going after women that you have a lot in common with?
Not surprisingly, he answered yes to all 6 questions. So I decided to check it out for myself. He gave me access to his AdultFriendFinder.com account and I did a little research. The first thing I took a look at was his profile. He was spot on with following our profile creation guidelines. He created a great profile and took the EXACT pictures we suggested.
I then got into his sent folder and read through a few of his emails. They were strong too. No surprise, he was receiving a decent amount of responses to his emails. That’s when I figured his problem had to either be going after the wrong type of women or his IM chats were too boring. So I took a look at those things as well. Here’s what I found out…
He Had Nothing In Common With The Women He Was Chasing
I cannot stress the importance of going for women you have a realistic shot at and women that have something in common with you. He’s not a bad looking guy but he doesn’t have enough to offer an 8 or a 9. He should be going after 6’s and 7’s that have something in common with him. The women he was chasing after were smoking hot and were clearly after guys with money. Don’t go after the gold diggers unless you have the bankroll to keep them happy.
He is an average guy going after women that want a Sugar Daddy. It’s very difficult to pull that one off unless you have the goods. I read through logs of his IM chats and he seemed pretty charming. But he wasn’t able to fake being wealthy very well. They sniffed him out easily. Be realistic with the women you go after. You can get attractive women, but you have to find the right ones for YOU.